Underrated Move

Hey, my name is Jeremy, and welcome back to another episode of "A Day in the Life of Jeremy!"

|Take your time to realize this guys. It's fucking mind-boggling to me at least.|

1. Have you treated your girl the same way you would want to be treated?

What I meant by this is that I've been so fixated on monetary aspects because this has installed in my mind since the birth of hence I did not treat her the way I would want me to treat myself. It means that buy her a rose, would mean a lot to me (as would she too). Treat her to ice cream (because that's her favorite), a boba tea (it won't cost much, to be frank). Don't do it because you would want to impress the shit out of her and after that left her hanging and wondering why he never acted like that anymore?. It creeps me out when I overthink (always do) about this situation and I've made tons of mistakes and I would forgive myself all the time for that but for this, I don't think I'll ever forgive myself on this. There's a quote saying "spend your money because the monetary aspects will come back eventually but the person who loved you will never come back. Even if you lowered your standard and you shut off your ego (I would not encourage but fuck it), she will never come back. 

2. What could happen if you don't tell her personal stuff because you think it will bother her?

Well, this is the dead-serious one motherfucking problem that I have right here. I would think that I have ruined the relationships for the worst. The moment she stepped into my life, I took it for granted and believing that the moment will last forever (which clearly it didn't). One wise word I would suggest is that "if today were the last day of your life, would I want to do what I'm about to do? - Steve Jobs". Living your life to the fullest is never complicated. Those emotions, pride, self-esteem, overconfidence, negligence, self-doubt are the worse thing someone can feel which makes an easy life impossible. Whenever you are in a relationship, you would want to consider that her problems are your problems, your problems are hers, there's no some one-sided bullshit. If she sits down with you and listens to all those craps that you had and does not know what the hell you are trying to imply yet still comforts you, she really loves you for reals. The empathetic move and the trust is what really matters in a relationship. It's a fool to me that I take everything lightly and I confine myself like a cold rock which likely no one would want that kind of person in their life. 

In the book that I'm currently reading "The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck" by Mark Manson. The book demonstrates that you need to split two categories in your life. What to give a fuck about and what not to give a fuck about. Basically, it means that you can choose what triggers your emotion such as you don't have to be angry at the cashier person if he is digging his nose. That's out of your control and there's nothing you can do about it. You can walk away and not give a fuck about it because it's not important anyway. Spend more time on what you give a fuck about is far more meaningful and worthwhile to understand.